So you want to learn how to attract women? A lot of what you think you know about women is wrong. A lot of stuff is actually counter intuitive. That’s ok though, you’re going to learn tips and tricks for attracting women that will boost your confidence and your success rate 10 fold. Let’s jump into them.
1. Have Standards
In order to be successful with beautiful women you need to have standards. Think of it from a woman’s perspective, if you’re the woman and a man comes running up to you gushing about how beautiful you are and that he wants to have sex/date you right off the bat without even getting to know you, you’re going to shut him down IMMEDIATELY.
On the other hand, if you approach her in a non-needy way. You are a challenge ie. not falling head over heels for her right away, and you demonstrate to her that girls around you act a certain way in order for you to like them you are going to spark an amazing amount of attraction. You’ve become someone she needs to convince is worthy of your time.
2. Ditch the Nice Guy Act
You heard me. Get rid of it. It’s fine to be a good person but being a good person and a nice guy are two different things. The nice guy for our purpose is the guy who buys women drinks to validate himself. The nice guy is the one who is desperate for her attention and completely gets sucked into her reality. You’ll notice a complete lack of spine here. The nice guy will agree with the attractive woman no matter his view on the situation.
I think you get the idea. The conclusion, don’t be that guy.
3. Stop Trying so Hard
Nobody likes a try hard. NOBODY. Nope, my caps lock button isn’t broken, I am attempting to make a point. At some point you need to just kick back and relax. A lot guys that are successful with women find a correlation between lack of effort and success with women.
Now, this doesn’t mean go James Bond in this bitch and sit back and watch women approach you. Doesn’t usually work like that – unless you’re a celebrity. In this case, were assuming you’re not. The goal is to find a balance between relaxed/confident while still progressing in the interaction.
To clarify – relaxed progression.
4. Money Isn’t the Way to Her Heart
A few of you out there have probably used or attempted to use money to boost your status for the purpose of attracting the opposite sex. This as you probably figured out, is not the way to build attraction. Granted you may run into some gold diggers that are into you, but that’s not what we’re going for here.
If you’re successful don’t brag about it. Let her uncover it as she gets to know you. For example, if she inquires as to why you’re wearing a suit to a bar, you can tell her you had a business meeting today. Further questioning may lead her to find out you just landed a million dollar contract at work.
Now, this isn’t outright stating your successful, she dug for it and found out that you are a well put together business man who often deals in the 7 figure range. This will work in your favor without you blatantly stating the fact. The conclusion: money can help build attraction, just let her find out for herself.
5. Attraction is Based on Personality
Guys love to give excuses day in and day out about the reason they’re not successful with women. I am too short, not classically good looking, not rich, not famous, just waiting for the right girl so on and so forth. This is important you know this because it can drastically change you’re outlook on women and dating: A major part of what a woman looks for in a man is personality!
Women aren’t like men, thank god. They aren’t anywhere near as physical by nature. Most of what men base attraction on is looks. Women aren’t the same way. They take other factors into consideration when choosing a partner. Again, a major factor is personality. This is something we can control, practice and improve on.
Changing the way we act around women will dramatically improve your success rate and ability to attract women. You don’t need to grow taller or fix that receding hair line. You need to work on your charisma, your ability to flirt, read body language, control your own body language and get physical ect.
This puts the power of attraction in your hands. Remember, you can’t control what others do, you can only control what you do. Apply these attraction tips to your life and notice a significant change and boost in your success with women.
Sat, Oct 15, 2011
How to Attract Women