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How to get rid of approach anxiety.
“Well, it wasn’t the right time. It doesn’t matter, she wasn’t that good looking anyway.”
We’ve all heard excuses like this before.
Alright gentlemen, it’s time to cut the bullshit. Approach anxiety has plagued you for way too long. We will now eradicate this beast so we shall never speak of it again. First, let’s discuss the basis of approach anxiety.
Chances are you’ve had some smooth approaches before. You may have had some success with women doing cold approaches. One thing that most guys come across when it comes to approaching women is the term coined “approach anxiety.”
What is Approach Anxiety?
This is the twisted knotted feeling in your stomach when you think about going up and introducing yourself to a stranger. For some people, the idea is enough to make them vomit. For others, it’s the fire that keeps them going.
Our goal is to help you turn that sick feeling into the tingling feeling that drives you to meet, socialize, attract women and become a more confident person overall.
Approach anxiety is all in your head. It’s not real. It’s not a debilitating disease. It’s a concept that you’ve built up in your head. Let’s say you’ve programmed yourself to think of any woman that is 8 or higher out of 10 on your scale to be unattainable. This programming is a combination of your views on women and views on yourself.
Your views on women were not given to you at birth. They are built off of experiences you gather throughout your youth and young adult life. Part of this is how your family raised you. The other part would be your social circle and your actions and successes with women early on.
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The views on yourself are just as if not more important. To put it simply, if you are nervous about approaching a woman, you don’t believe you are worthy of her time.
It Is All Based On Value
This comes down to value. You perceive her to be of higher value than yourself. Let’s look at a hypothetical situation:
You’ve just finished closing a deal with your business partner that’s going to land you 3 million dollars over the next three years. You’re ecstatic and you decide to go out with your partner and a couple friends for drinks. Add to the fact that you just picked up a brand new 911 Turbo last week, it’s needless to say you’re feeling pretty good about yourself. So you’re in the bar and you see a couple girls eyeing you a table away. Without hesitating you walk over and introduce yourself…
Now, would getting rejected take away from this situation? Would it ruin your night? Would you even think twice about it? Not bloody likely (add British accent). The situation puts you in a great mood, your celebrating, your confident with yourself and you’re successful in other areas of your life. This oozes into your personal life.
Your Frame of Mind Is Crucial
Things like rejection don’t even come to mind. The frame of mind you’re carrying is you’re successful and she’s lucky to be around you.
Approach Anxiety BUSTER: Focus your energy on all the positive things you have going in your life.
When you’ve got a list of things you’re proud of, when you exude confidence, it doesn’t matter if you are approaching your perfect 10 or an average 7 – there is no hesitation. There is no fear. There is no approach anxiety. You have a solid understanding of your self-worth.
What does this mean then? You need to get your shit together. You need to be comfortable in your skin. You need to have goals to work towards and things you’re proud of. Be inspiring. Be energetic. Be creative. Women love this.
When you know you give value wherever you go, there is no second guessing yourself. People will love to be around you because of the confidence you display and your ability to take charge. Be the leader of the group, cause the guy sitting at the very back is lucky to get scraps. It’s the leader who takes charge and gets what he wants, in this case, the good looking girl of the group.
Overcoming approach anxiety is not going to happen overnight. It will take as long as it takes to get your life together. It could be a month or it could be a year. The fact of the matter is you can get over approach anxiety. You’ll notice a lot of other positive things open up in your life when you work on improving yourself. Being able to get women is just one of them.
