Keep in mind, flirting and seduction techniques need to be tried and tested.  But it’s not really a special technique that makes her trip, fall and land in your bed.  It’s a lot more to do with who you are, how you control things and how far you want to push the envelope.  Without further ado:

1. Women Love SEX

This is seriously the most important piece I can give you.  Guys have been programmed to think women do not want or do not enjoy sex.  They love and enjoy it plenty, just not with you… yet.  It’s really more of a cultural thing, sex is taboo.  It’s not discussed very openly and the last few generations have been brought up around the idea that sex is dirty.

Times are changing a little bit and sex is becoming more mainstream and okay to talk about (thank you tabloids and shitty sexualized primetime tv) but I digress.

Guys this is your tip of the day.  Men seem to think they have to convince women to have sex, that it will be pleasurable and whatnot.  They already know this.  Your job as a man is to make her comfortable with you, build up attraction and make it so “it just happened.”

“We really shouldn’t be doing this” as you take her hand and walk into the bedroom.  Or, “this isn’t a very good idea” as you pause a couple inches away from her face and then kiss her.  Saying what you shouldn’t do but doing it anyway is amazingly powerful for the seduction process.

2. Control the Situation and Build Attraction

In order to create sexual desire and have her really want you, it’s important that you control the situation (whatever that might be) and progressively build attraction while you’re at it.

Controlling the situation could be anything from deciding that you’re having Italian for dinner to saying “wear something cute and comfortable” over the phone when you’re setting up plans.

Control is the opposite of indecisive. Indecisiveness isn’t attractive and women can tell shortly after they meet you whether you’re in control or not.  Be in control.

It’s not important you make the right decision or the perfect decision every time, just make a decision.  Go with what you feel like.  Act the way you see fit.  The key word there is act.  A lot of men that aren’t good with women are reactive.  They wait until something happens and then go from there.

For best results you must be proactive, in whatever form it should happen to take.

3. Put Yourself On the Line

While listed at number three, this could very well be a contender for the number one spot.  If you knew nothing about attraction, flirting, seduction or picking up women and simply followed your gut instinct and put yourself on the line, you would probably have a better success rate with women than you currently do.

Most guys are stifled.  Their actions and how they behave, how they hold back from pressing forward is a major reasons they aren’t having the kind of success they want.

Being stifled could be due to past experiences, current limiting beliefs or maybe the opinions of others in the room.

Some guys won’t put themselves on the line not because they are uncomfortable about it, but they’ll hold back because their friends or around.  This is very common.  Here’s the deal – DO IT ANYWAY.

Nobody cares whether you fail.  In fact, when you press forward with conviction, when you go for the kiss, when you start making out in the club you’ll see it really doesn’t matter.  Other people’s opinions don’t matter.

Control yourself, control your actions and put yourself on the line.  This will solve a lot of problems for men with dating issues.  Hope you liked these seduction tips.  Sign up on the right hand side for a complete crash course to approaching and meeting women.

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This article isn’t going to be long winded, I am going to get straight to the point and tell you about the 3 steps you need to take in order to get out of the friend zone with a girl.

1 Stop Being the Nice Guy

Nice guys are needy and unattractive.  Essentially you got put into the friend zone because of this reason.  Girls don’t feel a lot of attraction towards nice guys who bend every time she bats her eyelashes.

Neediness can be combated in several ways.  For example, if she asks you to do something for her, make her work for it.  If she asks for a favor, ask what’s in it for you.

Another key is to tell her NO!  Nice guys get in the habit of saying yes to everything she asks for.  Locate your spine and tell her NO!

When you take control of your attitude you will notice an immediate shift in how she sees you and how she treats you.

Can you escape the friend zone?

2 Start Flirting

If you’re not on top of your game you will find yourself slipping into the friend zone more often than not.  A common reason is because you’re not being sexual.  Flirting is a key component of building attraction with women.  If you don’t flirt with her, touch her, tease her how is she suppose to you know you’re interested.  You sure as hell didn’t blatantly state your intentions because ether A) you would have a girlfriend right now or B) you wouldn’t be need this advice because you would have moved onto green pastures.

Don’t go grope her at first.  Start light and playful and build your way up.  If you start pawing at her it will just make her uncomfortable.  Begin with light touches on the arm when you tell a joke and progress from there.

3 Take the Risk

Okay, we ditched the needy behavior and we’ve instead spent that time being assertive and cool.  We don’t bend over backwards for girls we like and we’ve implemented a lot more flirting and touching.  Now comes time for the last piece.  Take the risk.

This means you’re about to put yourself out on the line.  This can end one of two ways, and you need to be prepared to lose the friend if you want this to become something more.

This can go down two ways.  Firstly, you can try and state how you feel with words.  You can tell her things aren’t working for you as friends.  This isn’t the smoothest way to do it and it kind of puts her on the spot.  Asking the question resorts to a logical response, and as we know women act on emotion and rationalize on logic (often after they’ve acted on emotion).

With that being said I would opt for the second option, making a move.  This will probably involve you going in for the kiss.  The timing has to be right though and every situation is going to be different.  Make sure you don’t jump her out of the blue.  Use the flirting and touching to build up sexual tension and go from there.  This will give you a significantly better chance than hitting her up cold seemingly out of nowhere.

There you have it, in order to get out of the friend zone you need to drop the nice guy attitude, increase the sexual tension and flirting and last but not least make a move.  You can live with regret or you can live for the moment, the choice is yours.

You ARE reading this because you’re looking for that.  It’s not that hard… believe me.

Firstly, if you scoffed at the statement above “it’s not that hard,” then that’s something we’re going to have to address before we begin.

I want to pose a question to you – and answer honestly, it’s just me and you.

Who says you can’t have that beautiful girl of your dreams?  That special one you’d quite the game and everything that goes with it for.

Is it your friends… are they holding you back?

Is it your work?

Is it society?

Sure these all have slight impacts on the girls you date – but not significant enough to keep you from getting what you want.

It’s probably you!

Guys like to rationalize and give a whole bunch of circumstantial excuses about their jobs or the lack of spare time.  But that is all those are – excuses.

If you decide you want to have a gorgeous girlfriend – the only person that you need to convince is yourself.  Nobody else.  And once that decision is made – you will be surprised at how women seem to “just come into your life.”

That’s now out of the way, lets proceed.

Getting the Girl of Your Dreams – The MISSING Key

The chance of getting the girl you want correlates directly with the amount of effort your willing to put in.

Are you going to run into miss perfect the first day you start looking – probably not.

What you need to do is make yourself available.  Have a very vivid picture of what this woman looks like.  Short, tall, brunette, blonde, athletic, girly.  Have a clear picture of your perfect woman because if you don’t, she’ll probably pass you by on the street and you won’t even notice.

Start dating women.  Go on a couple dates a week.

I use the term date loosely.  I am not talking about sit down dinner.  Too much work just to find out your incompatible.

Meet for coffee.

Text her and set up a walk in the park.

Cheap fun activities are where it’s at.

Spending money to impress her is lame – don’t do it.

If you do – do it because you enjoy it and you don’t care.

Remember, if you have money –let her find out for herself.  All your money is worth nothing if you brag about it.

Get social.  Go out on weekends.  Go to events.  Take chances.  Try new things. And above all else – know what you’re looking for so you can find it.

Flirting can give you the edge you need in order to take that girl home with you.  If done poorly, or not enough, you will be going home by yourself (again).

So what is flirting?

Flirting is the progression of playful sexual tension.

This can be done verbally or physically.

This is where most guys get it wrong.  They’ve got it drilled in their head that flirting is only comprised of taking a woman down a peg or two.  This often comes in the form of insults.  These insults are frequently mistimed and not done in a playful way.

This is NOT flirting.

This is what gets you told you’re a complete asshole (not in the good way).

Side note:  This can work on extremely attractive women that are used to having their asses kissed all day; however, this isn’t the best strategy for 99% of women out there.  A lot of women are majorly self conscious.

Onward to proper flirting.

Now, in order to have success with women you must be able to flirt properly.  So how do we go about doing this?

Playful teasing.  The key word is playful here.  Here are some quick examples of verbal and physical flirting that will really boost sexual tension.

Reverse roles – accuse her of picking you up

This is a great one to use after you’re about 5 or 10 minutes into the conversation.  You reframe the typical situation of the guy picking up the girl.  You may initiate some teasing and then turn around as say “I know what you’re trying to do… and it’s not going to work.”  She’ll reply “whaaat” as you follow up with “you’re trying to pick me up… I’ve seen this act before and it’s not going to work.”

Hold onto that frame of mind.  It’s extremely powerful because now you have her thinking about picking you up, the flirting and sexual tension, and even sleeping with you.

Give her a funny nickname

This is playful and a great flirting technique.  Don’t overdo it though.  If she’s used to guys sucking up this is completely different.  It will break rapport and show her that you are a fun guy who doesn’t give her any extra credit just because of her looks.

Sexual innuendo

This is where you turn something obviously not sexual into something sexual.  Any time you can positively turn the conversation towards sex or things of that nature do it.  It gets her thinking about it which makes progression much easier.  Remember, always progress.  Keep moving forward, if you hit resistance take a step back, then keep going forward again.

Tickle her

This is flirting and playfulness at its finest.  I don’t recommend it until you start to get to know her.  For example, don’t just walk up say hi and start tickling her.  After you’ve spent some time with her asking her if she’s ticklish and doing it can be a great way to build comfort.  Even if she replies no to being ticklish you can point to a spot on her side and say I used to be super ticklish right there and then touch her there.

Talk about sex “dirty talk”

Outright talking about sex can be flirtatious and very helpful in getting her into bed.  If things are going well I might say something like “you seem pretty comfortable with your sexuality.”  If she replies yes or kind of, I will follow up with “what’s your favorite position?”  This can catch them off guard but if things are going well you’ll often get a good reaction aka her answering and even getting deeper into the conversation.

These are just a couple ways to flirt, increase rapport and build sexual tension on your quest to get laid.  If you haven’t already, sign up for my newsletter on the right hand side.  Inside I share tips, techniques and mindsets that will seriously boost your skills in attracting and seducing girls.

They don’t have to say a single word to you.  Hell, they don’t even have to be beside you.  You could see them from across the room and still know.

This is the power of body language.

Master it and you project an air of confidence that women want to be around and men envy.

Ignore it and you will stuck with the same results you’ve always had.

Here is what not to do when it comes to body language.

Stare at the floor when you walk

Pay attention.  You may do this unconsciously.  If you do, make a habit of walking with your head up.  Look where you’re going.  If you approach a woman looking at the ground she’s going to think you’re lost.  Walk with your head up.

Crossing your arms and closing yourself off

This isn’t open and friendly.  In fact, it’s the exact opposite.

Make sure to keep your arms by your side.  Not in your pockets.  Pretend like you run the show.  Project that kind of confidence.  But don’t get cocky.  Speaking of which…

Puffing up your chest trying to be the man

First of all no.  Secondly… no again.  If you’re in the room with more than a hand full of people, chances are you’re probably not the most dominant hardcore guy in the room.  So don’t act like it.

You don’t want to be this guy anyway.   You want to be the cool, suave guy who has his shit under control, not the guy who needs to show everyone how big his dick is to validate himself.

Act like the Energizer Bunny

Super fast movements are not attractive.  This does the opposite of displaying confidence.  It displays insecurity.

Slow down your movements, your walking and your talking.  This will have an immediate effect on how people view you.

This is how we get categorized as “cool” without even being within ear shot.

Be scared to take up space

If you’re not a confident man, chances are you’re not taking up as much space as you should.

Change this.

When you’re sitting down, take up the kind of leg room you deserve. Don’t go overboard.  Sit yourself comfortably and don’t be afraid to take up space.

If you make any of these mistakes when it comes to body language, make a conscious effort to change them.  It takes time to develop habits but it’s well worth it.

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This will totally change the way you view pick up and dating.  Prepare to have your bubble burst

Inner game is your belief system. In order to fix your problems you have to go directly to the source. This doesn’t mean necessarily learning and new technique or routine – but re-programming your beliefs and the way you look at things.

As you will soon find out once you start to look at things properly your whole view will shift. Things like approaching that were once difficult and scared you now require virtually no thought. You will find that you can walk up to any group of people, men, men and women – it doesn’t matter.

Your quest for a pickup line or a magical routine or opener will vanish. You will not be on a never-ending hunt anymore. It will be clear to you that how you carry yourself, your intentions, and the value you provide will do an adequate job of opening for you.

Let’s now take a look at a few key areas of inner game.

Number one: masculinity

This is about being a man right to your core. This is about accepting your intentions, your desires, and the truth that you are a man.

A lot of men tend to hide the fact that they’re trying to do something like meet a new woman for example. They try to sugarcoat it or hide behind indirect openers and lines. Using routines to help trying convey interest while not demonstrating anything themselves. This is not being masculine this is not aligning with your true intentions as a male.

In order to accept yourself as a masculine man you need to accept a few things:

• You are attracted to beautiful women
• You are not ashamed of your desires as a man
• You will act in alignment with your values and beliefs
• Your desires may be self-serving but they’re not wrong
• You are a man and you will conduct yourself as such

Number two: truth

Truth is an important part of inner game and until you’re truthful with yourself you will never be successful. Being truthful is about living honestly, honesty with yourself and honesty with others.

A lot of the time men get hung up on things like approaching, approach anxiety, openers, and routines; however, these tend to be Band-Aids or temporary solutions and don’t actually address the underlying issue. The underlying issue is you are not being truthful with yourself.

To give you an example, would you consider it truthful if a man wanted to approach a woman but did so in a passive unassuming way so that she didn’t know he was actually interested change that?

No, I didn’t think so.

You would probably agree with me that it’s far more truthful to approach and put your intentions on the line. This will be used as a screening process, your intentions will be conveyed right off the bat, and you will very quickly learn whether she is interested in you or not.

Inner game and being true to oneself is the ability to act on your desires – that is the truth.

Number three: confidence

Inner game as it relates to confidence is accepting who you are. But what is confidence?

Firstly, nobody is born with confidence. Confidence is something that is developed over time. It is an accumulation of your successes, failures, and your beliefs on how the world works.

If I told you you are an attractive male would you believe me? If you did believe me it’s probably because you have the belief that you are attractive. This would have been reinforced by an accumulation of your successes and failures with women, engaging and in life.

However, if you disagreed with me it’s probably because of your preconceived notions. These notions could regard various points in your life where people have told you you are not attractive. You could have been rejected or told that you are ugly – this is enough to deter many men and make them believe they are not attractive.

Confidence is expressed both verbally and non-verbally. The core of confidence is generated non-verbally through body language, eye contact and vocal tonality. You can say something that is extremely attractive and confident but if it’s delivered in a week closed off manner it will not be attractive at all.

As you can see confidence stems from not only your successes and failures but how those successes and failures have affected the way you express yourself.

In order to reprogram yourself, you must start your very foundation. Talk positively to yourself, not negatively. If you find yourself saying “I’m not good enough” or “she’ll never be attracted to me” take a second to think about why you’re thinking this way. Assess the good qualities that should have and the amount of value you can give to someone’s life.

Your ability to be attractive, to give value, to be desired all stems from your core beliefs and who you are. Becoming masculine is about accepting and promoting your core desires. Being truthful is about listening to yourself and acting in line with your intentions. Confidence, will grow through trial and error and re-framing your current beliefs.

There is no magic bullet this one guys. True, lasting change takes time and work. Recognize the aspects of your life you need to work on and take action.

This is okay though.  These are very manageable goals to have; however, to become proficient at the above tasks you need to be willing to put yourself on the line.  This is important and it is the crucial first step in meeting and picking up girls.

I am sure you’ve been in a situation where you were uncomfortable approaching a girl.  Maybe your friends where with you and you didn’t want to look bad if you got rejected.  Maybe you figured it wouldn’t work out so you didn’t even want to try.  These are common excuses amongst men and I can tell you a few things.

Firstly, you probably care more about what other people think of you than you should.  If you want to approach and meet a new girl but you’re scared you will look bad in front of your friends you need to reevaluate why you’re trying to meet them in the first place.  You’re not meeting them for your friends enjoyment.  No, you’re meeting them for your happiness.

Secondly, if you don’t try you’re never going to get anywhere.  You may have heard that old Wayne Gretzky  quote, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”  You need to through caution to the wind and approach anyway.  You have virtually nothing to lose.  So she’s unavailable, you have a new experience to learn from.  And if she is available, you could have just met a girl that could potentially make you very happy.  You won’t know until you approach.

Here are a couple tips to help you pick up girls.

Have the Frame of Mind “I Enjoy Meeting New People”

This is crucial.  People often approach girls for the wrong reasons.  A genuine interest in meeting someone new will go much farther than a ridiculous canned pick up line regarding the girls favorite day time soap opera.  Instead of wondering if she will like you, before you approach her ask yourself, “I wonder if she’s an interesting person.”  Then go find out.  Re-framing your mindset can be the difference between getting the number and getting told she has a boyfriend.

Don’t Worry About the Outcome

If you are one of the guys that is outcome oriented and has specific goals in mind for every interaction it’s time to let it go.  Want to know how to pick up girls?  Start by showing you are a man who has value to give, isn’t needy and would be cool to get to know.  If you’re desperate to get an instant date, a kiss or even a phone number – you probably won’t get it.  Forget the outcome – enjoy the interaction.

Don’t Drool Over Her

So she was born good looking, big deal.  There is no reason to give her extra credit or treat her any differently than someone who isn’t as visually appealing.  If you get extremely nervous around very beautiful women just remember that they are humans too.  A lot of beautiful women are very insecure, not all are confident.  And as you soon find out when you pick up girls, ones that are very attractive, the more normal and laid back you are the more success you will have.  Guys like to treat beautiful women differently – don’t.  They’ll thank you for it later.

Change the Subject Quickly

One reason your conversations end abruptly is because you stay on a certain topic for too long.  The key is to bounce to new subjects quickly, this will keep things fresh and you will not have to worry about “ahh, it was nice meeting you.”  It’s ok to cut her off, just keep the conversation rolling, don’t do it in a rude abrupt way, but do it in a way that is smooth.  For example, while she was talking you just noticed something really cool about her that you didn’t see before.

End the Interaction on a High Note

This was taken straight out of George Costanzas bag of tricks.  Leave on a high note and keep people wanting more.  As funny as that sounds, if you leave shortly after making a great impression, that great impression tends to stick.  This is why after we meet and pick up a girl, or we get her phone number, we quickly exit on a high note.  There is less chance of saying something that will screw you up and she will look forward to seeing you again because of it.

This should help answer your question of how to pick up girls.  These are some fundamentals that you can employ right away that will make a noticeable difference in your interactions.

1. Have Standards

In order to be successful with beautiful women you need to have standards.  Think of it from a woman’s perspective, if you’re the woman and a man comes running up to you gushing about how beautiful you are and that he wants to have sex/date you right off the bat without even getting to know you, you’re going to shut him down IMMEDIATELY.

On the other hand, if you approach her in a non-needy way.  You are a challenge ie. not falling head over heels for her right away, and you demonstrate to her that girls around you act a certain way in order for you to like them you are going to spark an amazing amount of attraction.  You’ve become someone she needs to convince is worthy of your time.

2. Ditch the Nice Guy Act

You heard me.  Get rid of it.  It’s fine to be a good person but being a good person and a nice guy are two different things.  The nice guy for our purpose is the guy who buys women drinks to validate himself.  The nice guy is the one who is desperate for her attention and completely gets sucked into her reality.  You’ll notice a complete lack of spine here.  The nice guy will agree with the attractive woman no matter his view on the situation.

I think you get the idea.  The conclusion, don’t be that guy.

3. Stop Trying so Hard

Nobody likes a try hard.  NOBODY.  Nope, my caps lock button isn’t broken, I am attempting to make a point.  At some point you need to just kick back and relax.  A lot guys that are successful with women find a correlation between lack of effort and success with women.

Now, this doesn’t mean go James Bond in this bitch and sit back and watch women approach you.  Doesn’t usually work like that – unless you’re a celebrity.  In this case, were assuming you’re not.  The goal is to find a balance between relaxed/confident while still progressing in the interaction.

To clarify – relaxed progression.

4. Money Isn’t the Way to Her Heart

A few of you out there have probably used or attempted to use money to boost your status for the purpose of attracting the opposite sex.  This as you probably figured out, is not the way to build attraction.  Granted you may run into some gold diggers that are into you, but that’s not what we’re going for here.

If you’re successful don’t brag about it.  Let her uncover it as she gets to know you.  For example, if she inquires as to why you’re wearing a suit to a bar, you can tell her you had a business meeting today.  Further questioning may lead her to find out you just landed a million dollar contract at work.

Now, this isn’t outright stating your successful, she dug for it and found out that you are a well put together business man who often deals in the 7 figure range.  This will work in your favor without you blatantly stating the fact.  The conclusion: money can help build attraction, just let her find out for herself.

5. Attraction is Based on Personality

Guys love to give excuses day in and day out about the reason they’re not successful with women.  I am too short, not classically good looking, not rich, not famous, just waiting for the right girl so on and so forth.  This is important you know this because it can drastically change you’re outlook on women and dating: A major part of what a woman looks for in a man is personality!

Women aren’t like men, thank god.  They aren’t anywhere near as physical by nature.  Most of what men base attraction on is looks.  Women aren’t the same way.  They take other factors into consideration when choosing a partner.  Again, a major factor is personality.  This is something we can control, practice and improve on.

Changing the way we act around women will dramatically improve your success rate and ability to attract women.  You don’t need to grow taller or fix that receding hair line.  You need to work on your charisma, your ability to flirt, read body language, control your own body language and get physical ect.

This puts the power of attraction in your hands.  Remember, you can’t control what others do, you can only control what you do.  Apply these attraction tips to your life and notice a significant change and boost in your success with women.

There are a dozen different tips, tricks and mindsets ect. I could give you to help you converse with the opposite sex but we’re going to have a look at couple of the most important ones.

Ditch the specific outcome

Yes it’s good to be goal oriented but not necessarily in this case.  When you set expectations like “I have to get this girls number” you set yourself up for failure if you don’t accomplish what you had in mind.  This can lead to lack of confidence and self esteem.  So what should be your goal you ask?  To simply have a good interaction.  When you are able to vibe with a girl, to talk to them and interact just for the sake of interacting – you will start to see more success talking to women.  This is a mindset tip.  You may think this isn’t as useful as a set routine for example, but spend some time out there talking to women and you’ll soon realize it’s not what you say but who you are.

Just start talking

Don’t use “she wasn’t hot enough” as an excuse not to talk to a girl.  If you’re going to build up a skill set you need to practice as much as possible.  Start talking to every girl that passes by.  Use opportunities like waiting for the bus or taking the elevator as time to get a quick conversation in.  I was able to pull two girls to my room in the time it took to go from the ground floor to the 27^th floor.  That was like a 30 second interaction – less.  The key to talking is to say whatever comes to mind.  It doesn’t have to be the funniest thing ever it just has to work. For those of you who love lines here’s an example:

I love those shoes, I have a pair just like them.

Silly, I know.  But that’s all it takes to start a conversation with girls.  She’ll laugh and from there you can go on to talk about whatever the hell you want.

Be Playful

This is so simple but it needs to be repeated. Be playful when talking to women.  Seriously.  If you walk up to women with a straight face and talk to them without cracking a smile you’re going to get nothing but yes or no answers – even if they’re open ended questions!  Now approach with a light, playful attitude and you will find girls are way more receptive.  No duh you’re thinking.  Well analyze your last conversation with a girl.  How did it go?  Were you upbeat and energetic?  Could you feel that vibe between the two of you?  Or was it a mundane conversation with no real spark.  The energy you bring to the interaction will determine if you have a chance of furthering the interaction – a phone number, a second date ect.  Don’t overlook this.

This is just a quick overview, the tip of the iceberg, when it comes to talking to girls.  It gets better so stay tuned.

Location

Location is a crucial point to get right.  This will literally make or break you.  If you’re stuck in a movie theater for 2 hours with no talking – you’re hardly furthering the seduction process.

Your best bet is to go somewhere fun, easy, and inexpensive.  Free dates are the best.  You shouldn’t have to buy her approval.

Some great places to go that are relatively inexpensive are:

-          Walk in the park

-          Trip to the zoo

-          Coffee

-          Bowling

-          Swimming

A date shouldn’t cost you much more than $5.  Try to take advantage of popular things in your area

Travel

Generally I’ll meet first dates out at the destination chosen.  This is the easiest to do, and this leaves her feeling more comfortable because she can leave at any time.  It really depends on how well you know her, if you’ve only talked to her for 10 minutes this will work fine. If you’ve talked to her for say 2 hours and started to really get to know her, you can tell her you’ll pick her up at her place.  Use your own judgment.

Stages

Most dates start off as a get to know you kind of thing and rarely delve into sex immediately.  It usually takes a couple meetings to have her warm up to you (depending on your level of game).  Just remember that you should lead the interaction and always push forward, because she’s not going to.  If she’s uncomfortable, she’ll let you know.  Two steps  forward, one step back.

Payment

Paying for the date… should you pay… shouldn’t you pay… what’s the deal?

Well, this basically comes down to you.  It is the gentlemen thing to do – but you shouldn’t feel obligated to pay for her.  If you want to, then do so.

I generally pay for stuff if I am out on a date.  Most of the time the woman will offer to pay for her half – I’ll smile, look at her and tell her she can’t buy her way into my pants, I am not that easy.  Follow these guidelines to start attracting women and having more successful dates.