Could you get this girl?
Everywhere you look men are hooking up with women. I am sure you’ve noticed it. All the while you’ve probably asked yourself on more than one occasion: why isn’t this me? There’s probably a laundry list of things you’re doing wrong, but unless I talk to you individually – I can only make assumptions. That being said I want to talk about some points about how to get girls that goes a bit deeper than a stock conversation starter or playful banter.
Create a Great First Impression
Being passive does not make a great first impression with women. If you want to progress quickly with someone you’ve just met it’s important from the get go to start initiating flirting, playful conversation and so on. Don’t be the guy who gets introduced and then wanders away, doesn’t really say anything, or tries to wait for a good time to give his opinion.
NO!
Get in there and start mixing it up. After I introduce myself/get introduced I immediately take the conversation where I want it to go. This could be something relevant to the situation, about her, or about me. I want to lead the interaction. This puts me in control and makes me look attractive. So tip number one – create a great first impression by seizing the movement and taking control of the interaction immediately.
Project a Sexual Vibe
We want to do this as soon as possible. Despite what seems logical: introduction > friends > build rapport > start to introduce playful sexual behavior, this isn’t it. It’s introdu – sexual vibe. Yes, I just cut myself off. That’s how quickly you want to start being sexual around someone you’re interested in. The sooner you start displaying it, the less awkward it will be. Trust me.
If a friend introduces me to a beautiful girl, I might lean over and say to my friend if it’s a girl, “you told her about my 3 date rule right,” with a smile on my face. Then I’ll elaborate because usually their like “wuttt”. “Yeah, you need to take me on like a least 3 dates before you try and get in my pants, I’m not a slut you know.” Said properly, with a sexual vibe creates great attraction. This is what you’re going for.
Have your Shit Together
How can you expect to get girls if you look like you just rolled out of bed. The look works for some people, most guys fair a lot better when they put some time and effort into their appearance. Guys only need a fraction of the time to look good and it goes a long way.
What do I mean by have your shit together:
- Start working out
- Make sure you bathe daily
- Get some nice clothes (update your wardrobe)
- Pick up a nice cologne or two to rotate (women notice this)
- Start eating healthy
- Value your time
- Have a clean house and bed
- Have a positive outlook and goals you want to achieve
You understand where I am going with this. You know you should update your wardrobe but you’re just not into fashion. Make it work. Take a girl shopping with you. My recommendation, buy one or two nice pieces of clothing a month. Spend the money and go for nice, quality brands. Not only do they last longer and look better, but you’ll feel good wearing it too.
The list above are things you know, but probably aren’t doing. You’d be surprised at the effect these things will have on your life. Not only regarding dating and women but all other aspects of your life as well.
Become an Interesting Person
I see a lot of guys struggle in this department. They run out of things to say, they don’t know where to take conversations, don’t know when to get sexual or flirt. This stems from a lack of confidence. So how to do we build confidence then? Become an interesting person. The best way to do this? Become well read. Start reading periodicals, books, watch the news, keep up with current events, spend time on topics that you’re passionate about.
This is interesting. This is awesome. Not only do you appear intelligent and attractive, but you have an endless variety of topics to discuss. On any given day I can list off 5-10 things going on in the world, 5 things I’ve read lately that interest me, and another couple things that are just off the cuff cool or informative. Shooting the shit with people becomes effortless. This helps boost confidence. Try it, you’ll see.
These tips on how to get girls are just that, tips. You need to apply them to your daily life. Only you can bring about change. I can type all I want but until you take action and make a firm decision about changing yourself for the better, you will not have the success you deserve. Put the effort in and the results will come and so will the girls.