How to get women into bed - voluntarily.
If you’ve asked yourself the question: how do I get a woman into my bed recently and haven’t found an answer, maybe I can help.
I want to start out by changing the way you phrase the question. Instead of asking yourself “how to get women into bed,” you should ask yourself “how do I get women to want to get into bed.”
The former question almost comes from a manipulative mind frame. It’s almost as if you’re trying to force someone into your bed. That’s not what we want to do.
We want women to want to get in our bed. The frame I take when I am flirting with a woman is the position of “her trying to seduce me.” This is not what normal guys do. This is very attractive to a woman.
For example, if we’re back at my place and I see her looking around I might say, “Hey, don’t even think about it.” “What?” is almost surely the response. “I saw you eyeing the bedroom, not a chance, there’s no way I am sleeping with you on the first date – I don’t care how much you try and pay me.”
This is said in a joking manner. The key is to give off a playful and confident vibe.
Reversing the role of who’s seducing who is a powerful tactic. Normally it’s the man trying to court the woman. We spin things around completely and imply that she’s chasing us.
The second piece of this article will cover the mental block of sleeping with women, especially new women that you just meet. Now, I want you to understand something. This may be hard for you to believe or comprehend, but nevertheless: Women Love Sex.
In most cases they just don’t love it with you… Yet. If you have a barrier built up in your mind that you need to take a woman on 3 dates or something before you sleep with them – extricate this from your brain.
All your beliefs about why a woman won’t sleep with you are wrong. They’re nothing but excuses. Go through all the reasons in your head why women won’t get in your bed. Are any of them legitimate? A woman will sleep with you in a very short period of time if you provide the correct frame of mind, the right emotions and the proper level of value and rapport.
When trying to get a woman into bed, you want to eliminate barriers. There’s no reason why you can’t have sex right away. It’s your goal to get rid of the defenses, the uncomfortable feelings and make it ok to get sexual.
This means when you first meet a woman you’re attracted to and know you want to get her into bed – start getting physical quickly. That means when you first meet, shake her hand. Be playful with her, tease her, touch her on the shoulder or lightly on the arm. Help her get comfortable with you. If she says something that pleases you tell her she’s awesome and point to your cheek (for her to give you a kiss).
Getting physical quickly is the fastest way to get her into bed. This is the part that many guys open up. Fancy lines, banter, jokes and things of that nature are good but it’s very surface level. In order to go deeper and build that connection and attraction you want to amp things up physically.
To recap you want to reframe things. Playing the role reversal and having her trying to seduce you is a great way to boost attraction. Remember that women love sex and the only thing holding you back from being with her is you. Lastly, get physical. Start slowly and build up as your interaction progresses. Flirting, teasing and being sexual is the fastest answer to the question: how to get women into bed.