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Would it be a massive weight off your shoulders if you knew how to pick up girls, anytime, anywhere?  I am going to guess yes.  If you’re like most guys, you probably have difficulties talking to girls, getting phone numbers and setting up dates.

This is okay though.  These are very manageable goals to have; however, to become proficient at the above tasks you need to be willing to put yourself on the line.  This is important and it is the crucial first step in meeting and picking up girls.

I am sure you’ve been in a situation where you were uncomfortable approaching a girl.  Maybe your friends where with you and you didn’t want to look bad if you got rejected.  Maybe you figured it wouldn’t work out so you didn’t even want to try.  These are common excuses amongst men and I can tell you a few things.

Firstly, you probably care more about what other people think of you than you should.  If you want to approach and meet a new girl but you’re scared you will look bad in front of your friends you need to reevaluate why you’re trying to meet them in the first place.  You’re not meeting them for your friends enjoyment.  No, you’re meeting them for your happiness.

Secondly, if you don’t try you’re never going to get anywhere.  You may have heard that old Wayne Gretzky  quote, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”  You need to through caution to the wind and approach anyway.  You have virtually nothing to lose.  So she’s unavailable, you have a new experience to learn from.  And if she is available, you could have just met a girl that could potentially make you very happy.  You won’t know until you approach.

Here are a couple tips to help you pick up girls.

Have the Frame of Mind “I Enjoy Meeting New People”

This is crucial.  People often approach girls for the wrong reasons.  A genuine interest in meeting someone new will go much farther than a ridiculous canned pick up line regarding the girls favorite day time soap opera.  Instead of wondering if she will like you, before you approach her ask yourself, “I wonder if she’s an interesting person.”  Then go find out.  Re-framing your mindset can be the difference between getting the number and getting told she has a boyfriend.

Don’t Worry About the Outcome

If you are one of the guys that is outcome oriented and has specific goals in mind for every interaction it’s time to let it go.  Want to know how to pick up girls?  Start by showing you are a man who has value to give, isn’t needy and would be cool to get to know.  If you’re desperate to get an instant date, a kiss or even a phone number – you probably won’t get it.  Forget the outcome – enjoy the interaction.

Don’t Drool Over Her

So she was born good looking, big deal.  There is no reason to give her extra credit or treat her any differently than someone who isn’t as visually appealing.  If you get extremely nervous around very beautiful women just remember that they are humans too.  A lot of beautiful women are very insecure, not all are confident.  And as you soon find out when you pick up girls, ones that are very attractive, the more normal and laid back you are the more success you will have.  Guys like to treat beautiful women differently – don’t.  They’ll thank you for it later.

Change the Subject Quickly

One reason your conversations end abruptly is because you stay on a certain topic for too long.  The key is to bounce to new subjects quickly, this will keep things fresh and you will not have to worry about “ahh, it was nice meeting you.”  It’s ok to cut her off, just keep the conversation rolling, don’t do it in a rude abrupt way, but do it in a way that is smooth.  For example, while she was talking you just noticed something really cool about her that you didn’t see before.

End the Interaction on a High Note

This was taken straight out of George Costanzas bag of tricks.  Leave on a high note and keep people wanting more.  As funny as that sounds, if you leave shortly after making a great impression, that great impression tends to stick.  This is why after we meet and pick up a girl, or we get her phone number, we quickly exit on a high note.  There is less chance of saying something that will screw you up and she will look forward to seeing you again because of it.

This should help answer your question of how to pick up girls.  These are some fundamentals that you can employ right away that will make a noticeable difference in your interactions.