How to Talk to Girls – 3 KEYS

You will never learn how to talk to girls – Don’t even try… unless you’re actually willing to put yourself out on the line.  That’s right, time to walk the line.  So what does it take to easily talk to women?

There are a dozen different tips, tricks and mindsets ect. I could give you to help you converse with the opposite sex but we’re going to have a look at couple of the most important ones.

Ditch the specific outcome

Yes it’s good to be goal oriented but not necessarily in this case.  When you set expectations like “I have to get this girls number” you set yourself up for failure if you don’t accomplish what you had in mind.  This can lead to lack of confidence and self esteem.  So what should be your goal you ask?  To simply have a good interaction.  When you are able to vibe with a girl, to talk to them and interact just for the sake of interacting – you will start to see more success talking to women.  This is a mindset tip.  You may think this isn’t as useful as a set routine for example, but spend some time out there talking to women and you’ll soon realize it’s not what you say but who you are.

Just start talking

Don’t use “she wasn’t hot enough” as an excuse not to talk to a girl.  If you’re going to build up a skill set you need to practice as much as possible.  Start talking to every girl that passes by.  Use opportunities like waiting for the bus or taking the elevator as time to get a quick conversation in.  I was able to pull two girls to my room in the time it took to go from the ground floor to the 27^th floor.  That was like a 30 second interaction – less.  The key to talking is to say whatever comes to mind.  It doesn’t have to be the funniest thing ever it just has to work. For those of you who love lines here’s an example:

I love those shoes, I have a pair just like them.

Silly, I know.  But that’s all it takes to start a conversation with girls.  She’ll laugh and from there you can go on to talk about whatever the hell you want.

Be Playful

This is so simple but it needs to be repeated. Be playful when talking to women.  Seriously.  If you walk up to women with a straight face and talk to them without cracking a smile you’re going to get nothing but yes or no answers – even if they’re open ended questions!  Now approach with a light, playful attitude and you will find girls are way more receptive.  No duh you’re thinking.  Well analyze your last conversation with a girl.  How did it go?  Were you upbeat and energetic?  Could you feel that vibe between the two of you?  Or was it a mundane conversation with no real spark.  The energy you bring to the interaction will determine if you have a chance of furthering the interaction – a phone number, a second date ect.  Don’t overlook this.

This is just a quick overview, the tip of the iceberg, when it comes to talking to girls.  It gets better so stay tuned.